Readers over a certain age will remember comedian Bob Newhart. Now 92 years old, the actor known for his deadpan delivery once played a psychologist who advises a cast of eclectic characters. Met a woman who was scared and kept thinking about burying a box, the doctor famously offered a two -word solution:
Naturally, breaking bad and destructive habits is easier said than done. But the first step is to realize the damage done by drinking pornography.
Although many in the world downplay or view pornography as merely a harmless form of sexual expression, the reality is the other way around.
While this is a powerful modern -day epidemic, historians date the existence of pornography back thousands of years – adding validity to the old adage that “The more things change, the more they stay the same.”
Of course, the proliferation and access of this distortion of God’s good plan for sexuality has changed over the years. What had to be searched before with some effort can now be found with just the click of a button on a phone or computer.
Justice Potter Stewart of the Supreme Court famously described pornography as “I knew it when I saw it” – but few would disagree that so many see it today – even Christian believers.
As someone who has worked diligently to protect and educate on this issue, I feel that much of the sexual dysfunction that exists in culture today stems from this scourge and distortion of human sexuality.
While nearly 75% of parents believe their children have never seen pornography, a recent survey found nearly 85% of men and 57% of women between the ages. that 14 and 18 have – a shocking and frightening trend.
But, unfortunately, pornography isn’t just an epidemic of hormone-filled teens. At Focus we hear from people every day whose spouse is addicted – or they, they themselves are struggling. While men and women eat it, men are not equally represented.
The damage of sexual addictions was in the mind of the apostle Paul when he warned Christian believers to “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18) and “control your body” (1 Thess. 4: 4).
Pornography exploits its members and damages the healthy sex of marriage. It can weaken the relationship and ruin the marriage.
If you’re a man who shares this – or a woman who shares it – Bob Newhart’s two -word solution is my best advice to you:
But I could add two more words, especially for those that are less simple:
REQUEST AND HELP!
Pornography is a dangerous trap that is not easy to break.
For that reason our ministry has created a number of resources to help those who want to overcome this temptation. You can start by checking https://www.focusonthefamily.com/pornography. Or ask to speak with one of our licensed or pastoral counselors by calling 1-855-771-HELP (4357) days of the week 6 am to 8 pm (Mountain Time).