My friend Matt learned the hard way how important other people are in our lives.
In college, he walked into a convenience store, opened the door, and ran inside to make an immediate purchase. Unfortunately, he didn’t bring his Chevy to the park. It clicked out of gear, rolled backwards onto a pole, and bent Matt’s open door in the opposite direction.
Instead of asking for help, he slammed his door with a hammer.
It got worse. A few days later, Matt in the back ended up with a man, who broke the nose of his car. When a man stopped and asked him if he needed help, Matt happily replied, “No, I got it.”
A few days later, he was walking down the highway when his wrinkled hood disappeared and folded back on the windshield. He was about to reach the side of the road safely.
A worried driver who saw this happening approached Matt and asked, “Son, do you need help?” This time, Matt humbly replied, “Yes, sir, I think I do.”
The key to living well is knowing when to say, “I got it,” and when to say, “I didn’t.” Sometimes the greatest kind of courage is to have the humility to say, “I need help.”
Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Even if one man can overcome one alone, two can resist him-the threefold rope cannot be easily broken.”
The strength of a rope lies in its construction. The fibers of the fiber work together, creating energy that they cannot achieve on their own.
The same is true of relationships.
We need people. And other people need us. But we don’t always know how more we need each other. In Our Focus on Family Broadcast ”Encouraging Great Relationships with Others, ”Author and psychologist Dr. John Townsend joins us in offering practical advice for developing healthy relationships that provides what he calls “people fuel”:
- Attendance – Be aware of what a person is going through, without judgment. Job’s friends sat with him seven days, without saying a word, because of his great sorrow (Job 2: 12-13).
- Express the good – Strengthen others by encouraging, affirming, and giving hope.
- Give reality – Think Yoda Star Wars, or Gandalf in The Lord of the rings. Provide wisdom, understanding and make a plea for change.
- Call to action – Provide a framework for growth and change, and challenge others to take difficult action. We will not change until we act on our beliefs.
Listen to my conversation with Dr. Townsend to your local radio station, online, sa Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or take us with you to our free phone app. That book People Fuel: How Energy from Relationships Transforms Life, Love, and Leadership available for a gift of any amount. Visit our website for more information.