Has one of your children thrown a world class fit in a store?
My son Trent did that once when he was little. I was out of town, and Jean was alone with him in the checkout aisle. Trent wanted a candy bar and was devastated when his mom told him no.
Jean is a new mother and is embarrassed that she can’t control Trent. Fortunately, a man in a military uniform intervened and told Trent, “Son, you need to listen to your mother.”
I don’t know who that person is, but I say, “Thank you.”
Situations like that happen to moms and dads all the time, but it’s not always clear how to respond.
For example, how should parents deal with whining children?
How to lie?
What about tattling?
The solution starts with the end goal in mind. Raising children isn’t just about changing behavior. It’s about connecting with their heart because their heart is ultimately the source of their behavior.
Sin does not begin with our words or our actions, it begins with our motives. In Matthew 12:34, Jesus said, “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” We do and say what is in our hearts.
Author Ginger Hubbard says, “What goes into the well comes out of the bucket.” He also said that many parents adopt wrong child training methods that only respond to external behavior and not internal motivation.
There is more to parenting than correcting our child’s outward behavior.
As We Focus on Family Broadcast “Shape Your Child’s Tongue” Ginger Hubbard and I talked about how parents can connect to a child’s heart when he whines or lies.
We talked about his book I Can’t Believe You Said That: Biblical Wisdom for Tripping Your Child’s Tongue which will empower you to help your child at the heart level with a long list of behaviors including whining, lying, whining, defying, manipulating, nagging, complaining, shifting blame, teasing, aggravating, bragging , arguing, shouting, gossiping, arguing.
You will also learn how to ask heart-wrenching questions like Jesus did. We would like to send you a copy for a gift of any amount. Call us at 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459) or click HERE for more information. Thank you for your support.