Julie and Clay’s first child is due any time now. To celebrate and enjoy one last date night before the baby is born, Julie plans a romantic dinner. That night, Julie arrived first at their favorite restaurant, and waited.
Clay was supposed to be there straight from work, but twenty minutes later he still hadn’t shown up.
Julie called her phone. No answer.
Thirty minutes passed.
Then an hour.
Eventually Clay and Julie lose their reservation, and Julie’s expectations for the night are ruined. When Clay finally walked through the front door that night, Julie was relieved…
how you did you answer that time?
Julie pulled back. “Wait a minute,” he thought. “I know he’s looking forward to our night together as much as I am. He must have a good reason for being late.”
Sure enough, an important client called at the end of the day, and Clay’s boss was in the room helping to make sure Clay had the answers he needed. Especially with layoffs on the horizon and a baby coming, Clay doesn’t feel it’s wise for him to tell his boss he has to leave.
Julie could have escalated that scenario into a full blown conflict. Instead, she chose to think the best – not the worst – about her husband. His approach preserves their happiness by giving him a chance to explain himself without excuse. It also became a positive deposit in their relationship. She trusted her husband’s heart for her even though circumstances might have suggested otherwise.
According to speaker and author Shaunti Feldhahn, thinking the best about your partner is just one of the things happy couples do. He conducted a national survey, interviewing more than 1,000 couples who said they were happy in their marriages. He found 12 common characteristics among them.
He is with us in our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Revealing the Secrets of a Happy Marriage” to share his findings. Listen to our broadcast on your local radio station, onlineon Apple Podcasts, Google Podcastsor take us with you to our free phone app. This program is part of our “Best of” programs for 2022aired throughout the month of December.
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